The real winners in life, says Oliver James, "are those people who don't worry about winning and losing."
My own view is that sooner or later we are all losers. We are all going to lose everything that we have and we are forever. So better accept it.
Among the groups of people least willing to come to terms with this unavoidable truth are the religious. They are mostly hooked on the idea of some kind of afterlife in which they can go on going on, so that they don't have to lose everything, at least not forever.
But they do. And this craving for something they can't have prevents them developing a real spitituality - a spiritualty with guts.
Or so it seems to me.